Dears,

I’m starting a new segment on the blog inspired by my journal entries.

I have been entertaining the idea of starting a segment on the blog titled “Journal Entries” for quite some time now.

My Journal Entries are what I call Sacred Practices. Some of them feel like conversations with God. They range from experiences and subsequent reflections all the way to poems. The way I sometimes get insights and answers to questions without much thought, as if the pen just does what it wants to do and I flow with it, makes me feel like a Higher Being takes over. I sit often in awe when I finish journaling because sometimes the realizations I get blow my mind. Now, I finally feel comfortable enough in myself to share some of them with you.

Journal Entries are quite personal, but it’s not the first time I’ve stated that I believe that it is in the personal that we find ourselves.

While I will give myself permission to share some of my most intimate and vulnerable thoughts on this platform, I am also selective about what I share here. Not all thoughts are to be shared with the world. So, sometimes, I will share parts of an entry. Perhaps only a quote and expand on it. Other times, I may share the whole entry – whatever I feel most comfortable with. I believe that there is wisdom in those pages that can be a source of inspiration or information for us. Plus, my journal entries feel like an infinite source of content for the blog too. I know some of y’all have been waiting for new posts for some time. So here we go!

With that noted, here’s the first of hopefully many Journal Reflections:

I need not chase, and I need not be chosen.

Let me expand on this thought…

One of my truths is that we are energetic magnets. We vibrate on different frequencies and we attract on different frequencies. Sometimes we attract that which is aligned with us on only a few levels, and other times we attract what’s aligned on several levels.

A friend of mine once told me that she doesn’t think we always attract the people who come into our lives or the circumstances we face because we’re on a vibrational resonance with them. She used the example of light, and how light tends to attract seekers of light – like moths and lamps. And I agree with her, too. We don’t always attract that which is aligned with us. Multiple things can be true.

As we walk in our “light”, we attract those seeking light as well. Just like a magnet has a positive and a negative pole, we will inevitably attract those who appear to be opposite forces of us. The saying opposites attract didn’t come out of nowhere.

Yet I also believe that energetically, there is a part of us that may end up giving that which is not aligned with us our attention and energy because our magnets are pulling to their magnets; for whatever reason, there’s a connecting force. We give someone or something attention (and thereby energy) because there’s a degree of resonance – even if that may be on a nonconscious level.

The same way that someone may be interested in us, sometimes we may feel attracted to people and we are interested in getting to know them and their “light”, so to speak.

Now how does this whole attraction thing relate to chasing and being chosen?

“Chasing” is not our natural flow. Its premises are not rooted in attraction nor alignment, but rather, in force. Oftentimes, when I’m “chasing” something or someone, I feel like you must go above and beyond to have whatever it is that I’m “chasing”. And that’s because when we’re chasing, we’re trying to make something happen. Similarly, when I feel like someone or something is “chasing” me, there’s a tension and pressure that doesn’t feel natural.

This creates the next issue: being chosen.

When we’re chasing something or someone, it is because we want to be seen, acknowledged, and chosen.

You might ask, then, “What about chasing your dreams?”, “What about knocking on doors?”, “What about trying relentlessly until you get it?”, “What about effort?”, and “What about proactivity?”

My answer to these questions, based on my own experiences, is simple: know when to.

Pursuing is not the same as chasing

There is such a thing as having interests and pursuing interests. When you meet someone you have a connection with, you may be interested in getting to know them. When you find a vocation that resonates with you, you may want to pursue it. When you find a passion, you may want to explore it, learn about it, and become excellent at it. Pursuing something, however, is not the same as chasing something. Pursuing your interests in getting to know someone is not the same as chasing that person.

Know when to take action to pursue what you want. Know when to exert agency and go after what you want. But never to be chosen and validated.

In an energetically balanced dynamic, there are no choosers. There’s only alignment.

Don’t get consumed in the culture of “being chosen” – whether that is by someone or an organization – as that implies that there is a chooser, and you are at the mercy of this chooser. In an energetically balanced dynamic, there are no choosers. There’s only alignment.

Living in a world that tells us to “go get it”, “make it happen”, and “chase that bag”, I know it’s not always easy to apply the principles I just mentioned. It may seem like if we don’t chase hard enough, we will lose to someone who did run a bit harder than we did. It may seem like if we don’t run after what we want, we may never get it.

And I can’t help but to think of the old proverb, “if it’s meant to be, it will be.” This implies flow over force, and that’s exactly what the principles “I need not chase, and I need not be chosen” are about.

Alignment with frequencies creates communion and fusion of frequencies. Alignment with frequencies creates a convergence of energies. In such a state, “chasing” and “being chosen” seize to be part of reality; instead, attracting and merging become the standard. This applies to all areas of your life. When you attract what/who resonates to you and what/who you resonate to, pursuit will feel easier, and certainly not as forced as chasing does.

Pursuit allows and aligns. Chasing may force to make things happen. While pursuit converges interests with alignment, chasing some interests can be at the expense of alignment. This is because when chasing, one wants to be chosen by the perceived chooser (sometimes at whatever cost) as opposed to allowing convergence to happen naturally and effortlessly yet intentionally.

A final note: we are constantly choosing things; our life is based on decision-making. We choose to be in any form of dynamic we’re in. And vice versa, the people who are in our lives are also choosing to let us partake in their reality.

But this is different than being chosen, as one is active and co-creative, and the other passive and submissive to only the chooser.

And this is why I need not chase, and I need not be chosen.